But how do I define it? It is living up to whatever is agreed with with the other person. In my monogamous past, it was being faithful. My partner often cheated. I wasn't upset about that, I was upset about the lies and the undervaluing/disregard for our connection. I was never upset about them being with someone else, it's what they allowed it to do to our relationship.
Loyalty is having the other person's back, with or without them there. It is honesty even when it is harder; *especially* when it is harder.
It is working things out, and not giving up on the connection when obstacles present, when there are challenges or misunderstandings.
It is longevity, growing the relationship stronger. It is true friendship and sincere care.
I suppose I take a ride or die perspective on loyalty. That doesn't mean you only have to ride with one person to be loyal.
I definitely identify with others relational values whom I've met so far in Polyamory. I don't have a lot of exposure though. Connection is key, and so important. It might be that the people I've talked to and met whom were polyamorous we're just incredibly awesome. There are dismissive, avoidant, and ghosting people everywhere, probably in poly too. If my first experience with someone whom was poly was with one of these people, it would have tainted the experience.
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